『老外说性』充气娃娃=不尊重女性？（双语/18禁）

Savage Love Column            May 20, 2010
“野人之爱”性专栏                 2010年5月20日 
 
来信：
 I need your help. I have entered into a period of my life where I am devoting all my mental resources toward my academics—grad school—and am not interested in dating. Thus, I bought a Real Doll [1] that I may enjoy fantastic masturbation during this loveless period. Unfortunately, while my parents were visiting, my mom discovered it and she reacted very, very badly.
我需要你的帮助。我正处于全身心专注于学业的人生阶段—研究生学习—没兴趣约会谈恋爱。所以，我买了一个充气娃娃，用自慰很好地填补这个无爱的空白。不幸的是，它被来访的妈妈发现了，妈妈的反应非常剧烈。
You see, my dear mother is a feminist.
没错，我亲爱的妈妈是个女权主义者。
She is very upset by the doll and believes that it is an indication that I have lost all respect for women. I do not feel this is true. I view myself as a feminist, and I realize this society sexually objectifies women. But I also believe that I can masturbate with a rubber woman and have wild fantasies and then come back to reality and respect everyone—men, women, others. My mother, however, is extremely upset, and we haven’t been able to have a civil conversation since. I am hoping you can possibly give me some perspective.
她不安是因为她觉得我的行为是完全不尊重女性的表现。可事实并非如此。我自己也是个女权主义者，这个社会也确实是在性方面物化女性。但是，我用橡胶女人自慰享受狂野的性幻想和我回到现实中尊重每一个人—不管是男人，女人或者其他人—两者并不冲突。我妈妈非常不安，事发后我们一直没有坐下来好好谈一谈。希望你能给我一些你的看法。
Dolled up
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 耽的回信：
My perspective: Your masturbatory routines—including your masturbatory aids/aides—are none of your mother’s fucking business. And if your mother wants to be shocked by something, DU, it ought to be that her son-the-grad- student had $5K to plunk down on a sex toy.
我的看法：你的自慰习惯—包括你的自慰工具/助手—不关你妈屁事。你妈非要觉得惊讶的话，DU[2]，应该是她的研究生儿子居然买得起五千美刀的性工具这一点吧。
Your options at this stage are pretty limited. You can apologize to your mother and tell her what she wants to hear (“You’re right, Mom, I’m making an appointment with a therapist and donating my Real Doll to sex-starved grad students in Africa…”). Or you can tell your mother to fuck off and butt out (“It’s my dick, Mom, and I’ll stick it in whatever I want. You remember that ‘my body, my choice’ stuff, right?”).
你的选择不多。要么你跟妈妈道歉，说她想听的话（“妈妈，你说的对，我已经约了心理医生，也正着手把这个充气娃娃捐给非洲性饥渴的研究生…”）或者叫你妈妈走开不要多管闲事。（“妈妈，鸡鸡长我身上，我想往哪插就往哪插，别忘了那个口号“我的身体，我做主”对不对？“）
That said, DU, your claim that you bought a Real Doll so you could “enjoy fantastic masturbation during this loveless period” doesn’t quite pass the smell-of-day-old-spunk-moldering-in-the-lifeless-orifice-of-a-silicone-dummy test. Most guys manage to tough out their loveless periods with the help of the porn industry and their own right hands. And most guys who opt for insanely expensive, life-size, hard-to-hide sex dolls do have issues with women—most are plagued by feelings of inadequacy, not superiority—so you may want to entertain the possibility that your mother might be right.
DU，你说你买充气娃娃“自慰很好地填补无爱的空白”还没有通过 “精液在无生命的硅胶模型洞里隔夜变馊的味道”的考验。大部分的男人借助色情产业和右手来填补无爱的空白。而大部分选择这种价格不菲的，真人大小的，很难藏起来的娃娃的人确实是对女人有障碍的—大部分是出于无能感而非男性优越感—所以你妈妈的看法也许是有些道理的。
But even if you do have issues with women—still an if—they’re still none of your mother’s fucking business.
但是，就算你对女人有障碍—只是个假设—也不关你妈屁事。
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[1] Real doll,极富盛名的可定制充气娃娃品牌，PS：嗅觉灵敏的商家总能与时俱进，如上图新推出的阿凡达蓝皮肤娃娃；再PS：有男娃娃）
[2]DU是对来信者Dolled up的简称。
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